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Review: Sliquid Sassy Lube “Booty Formula” & Fukuoku 9000 (& NaughtiNano)

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on November 18, 2008
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This morning I woke up early, and I had some time before work. I decided that since it was my birthday I should start the day with an orgasm. I decided to use the one time a week I have permission to masturbate right to orgasm. (Versus the one time a week when I can masturbate but I have to hold back on coming for a bit.) I knew I had some stuff to review so I got out the two things I could review solo - the Sliquid Anal Lube and the Fukuoku 9000. I also decided to try out the NaughtiNano I got as a giveaway at the Sex Blogger Calendar party. (I figure if I’m trying out a toy I should tell you all about it even if I’m not required to write a review - after all the perk of getting free sex toys should be offset by the benevolence of telling people where they should spend their money - I have a bunch of sex toys I never use that I wish I hadn’t bought. I could have used reviews but this was in the days before I was a sex blogger and everyone started reviewing everything.)

I plugged the naughtinano into my iPod nano and turned it on. Nothing happened. I went into the next room to get the instructions and it says to turn the volume up to at least 75% in order for the vibe to work. So I had to crank the volume all the way up to get the vibe really working, and of course by this time it’s too loud to put the earphones in my ears. Still, it was fun that it would vary the vibration according to the music, and I really want to try it with something spoken word, because as I was walking out of the party the other night a woman I don’t know stopped me and said, “Spoken word! That’s the best. Audiobooks!” And I will certainly use this sage advice at some point in the near future. (I’ve pretty much given up audiobooks since I finished grad school; I’m no longer under duress to finish so many books a week.) The vibe wasn’t strong enough to get me off on my own, so I slid it inside after lubing myself up and left it threre for the duration. (The vibe takes these really odd sized little batteries, kinda like half size AA. But it comes with two sets.) It was easy to clean up and I want to try it out with the end cap that makes it into a regular vibrator.

Sliquid’s Sassy Anal Lube is meant for butt sex, and I used it like that when MasterDoc fucked me anally at a club last week. I don’t think I used enough that night, because when I used it today it was just great - slippery and similar in texture to my own juices. The other night I felt like I needed just a little more lube. I will have to try it again sometime soon (for research purposes of course). The lube lasted throughout my masturbation session this morning and even for a couple of hours after - I felt all slick and slippery as I headed to work and I had to wipe some of it off when I used the bathroom. It never got sticky and I didn’t need to add more - definitely the criteria for great lube. Overall I am really happy with the Sassy Lube. Even when I tried it out by rubbing it between my fingers when I first got it I was impressed by how slippery it was and how long it lasted (without stickiness). I can definitely see the appeal of using it for anal lube. I like this lube.

The Fukuoku 9000 is a vibe you put on your finger. I have been dying to try one for ages. I found that I liked it best when I had it between the first and second knuckle (from the tip of the finger), that way I could bend my finger and manipulate the vibe on my clit. There’s three sleeves (sillicone!) with different textures and I liked the bumpy one best of all, even though the stimulation got a bit much on my clit when I was really aroused. You can put the vibe further up on your finger but it leaves your finger rigid, which may work for you but didn’t work for me. I stroked it against my clit and when the nubbly bits got to be too much I merely tilted it on its side a little. I find it’s not quite as strong as my bullet vibe or the Nea, so it took me a little longer to reach orgasm than one of those, but it’s not significantly weaker. If you don’t like strong vibes the Fukuoku could be perfect for you. (I like ‘em strong, but then some women hate things like the Hitachi magic wand and sybian. The Hitachi gets too much for me sometimes.) It comes with a carrying case and two sets of watch batteries (you use two batteries to run it). It’s conveniently small and I can’t wait to try it out when it’s on MasterDoc’s finger - the sensation of someone else touching you is inevitably different than touching yourself, and the Fukuoku may really excel there.

So overall I enjoyed the three things I tried out this morning and they led to a wonderful orgasm which put me in a good mood. (When I got to work I got an email that put me in a lousy mood, but c’est la vie.) I have underbed restraints to try out, but I need MasterDoc’s help with that. Review will come as soon as I am able to try them out.

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Halftime

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on November 11, 2008
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So I’m spending the week with MasterDoc, which those of you who follow my twitter already know. I came over on Sunday night with Davey. Davey was leaving Monday morning for a business trip, and it was easier to leave from MasterDoc’s than from our place. Davey and MasterDoc watched the football game that night - an interesting thing considering Davey roots for Philly, and MasterDoc roots for NY and those teams were playing each other.

MasterDoc decided that like a few weeks ago when I visited him on a Sunday night I should go warm myself up and then the two of them would come in during halftime. (Yes, I was the halftime entertainment. Rowr.) So a little before halftime I went into the bedroom and started playing with my bullet vibe. Knowing that these two guys were going to come in and have me, I got hot in no time, stroking the vibrating bullet against the right side of my clit (that’s the side that works for me).  I’ve gotten good at enjoying the ride while not coming. I felt very slutty getting myself ready like that.

Soon, they peeked in. I kept playing with myself. MasterDoc decided he needed a bath so he left Davey and I alone. Davey just kinda sat on the bed and watched me. Meanwhile, I was waiting, and wanting, to be used. Eventually Davey thought to ask, “Would you like me to fuck you?” I said yes and he put a condom on. Just as he was going to fuck me MasterDoc came in. Davey fucked me, while MasterDoc grabbed hold of my hair. I made sure that I was allowed to come whenever I wanted with Davey (I was wearing my collar and wasn’t sure if that superceeded the rule that I can come at will with Davey.) Happily, I was allowed to. So, like a wave, I let my arousal build until it came crashing down and I came. MasterDoc held onto my hair firmly and told me to come, which just made me come harder. Davey fucked me for a while and I had orgasm after orgasm, with MasterDoc telling me what a good girl I am throughout.

I was hopeful that MasterDoc would be next to fuck me, but unfortunately he forgot to take a pill and his penis wasn’t cooperating. So I was only fucked by one that night, instead of both the men in my life. I slept well that night and wished Davey a safe trip when I got up to go to work in the morning. That evening, I went to MasterDoc’s after work, and so started my vacation week. So far it’s been a very sexy week, and I’m sure there’s more to come. Next, I need to blog about the guy coming over last night and the many orgasms I had then. (I’m a very lucky girl!)

Early Experiences, Part 1

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on October 17, 2008
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I recently asked readers for questions or topics they’d like to see covered here. One that came up was the idea of my experiences before MasterDoc. I certainly had plenty of sexual experiences before him, but he’s my first actual Dom. I dabbled in bdsm prior to meeting him, and knew for a while that I’d like to find a Dom (but found that so many of them on collarme were full of themselves). My first bdsm experiences go back, well actually they go way back to my teen years. Now, I don’t know if I’ve mentioned here before that I was a virgin until my 18th birthday. I didn’t even kiss a boy until I was 17 and a half. So what experiences did I have in my teens you may ask? I would play with bondage and blindfolds when I masturbated. I’d tie my wrists together as best I could and then masturbate with my hands bound. It’s not easy doing self-bondage and you have to leave it fairly loose so you can get yourself out of it, but I still got a little thrill from doing it. I knew even then that it was something I wanted to try one day when I had a partner. I kept things like old bathrobe sashes that I could use to tie myself up with.

My first boyfriend and I played around a bit, I think I’ve written about that on here. We tried a little bondage, a little spanking, some power exchange role play (both of us switching). I loved being on the submissive end of the power play, but the hard part was that he did too. We didn’t get deeply into anything, but we played around with lots of experiences - real and fantasy. We played around once that we were total strangers who met at a bar and went home with each other and fucked. I wouldn’t have gone anywhere near an experience like that in real life at that age (a good thing, I’m sure) but I was curious to try new things and have varied experiences. First boyfriend and I would spend a lot of time trying to come up with stuff we’d never tried before (and it was all new) and then doing it. We weren’t successful with anal sex - I didn’t accomplish that til much later. And since he was a boy he couldn’t help me with the whole bisexual experience. (I was open with him about my desires. I later found out in a round about way that he had those sorts of desires too, but he was never open with me about them. Oh except for how he’d say that if he was gay he’d be into Patrick Swayze. Even then I kinda knew the translation was that he was into Patrick Swayze.) I eventually slept with a woman when I was 28. (That’s a little tale in and of itself.)

My sexual experiences in college were pretty standard, vanilla fare. I don’t recall doing any bdsm play during college. I can’t recall when I took up with the married guy (senior year? after college?), but I did play a little with a married guy I slept with off and on for a few years. Nothing much, just a little light Dom/sub type stuff. That was ultimately a situation that I was better out of. When I first met him he claimed to be separated from his wife, then he admitted to still being with her, then he went ahead and had another kid with her even though he’d bitch to me about how unhappy he was. Finally, just when things were winding down between us, his wife called me at work and confronted me. Whew. Not fun. That was the end of the married guy in my life. I’ve twice made the mistake of fucking cheating men, and ultimately neither situation was satisfying. I now have a rule that the spouse absolutely has to know about me or I won’t get into the situation (or won’t stay in it if I find out later that he’s lying).

As a young adult, after college, I still mostly had a vanilla sex life. There would be some light spanking or bondage with various boyfriends, but nothing that was truly a Dom/sub situation. I very briefly dated a guy who was into bdsm, but I had a long distance relationship with an Englishman then and the bdsm guy wasn’t keen on being with a woman whose heart was with someone else. Still, we had a couple of dates, we went to a movie and he fed me popcorn at the rate he decided and I struggled to keep up. I think he had me suck his fingers in the movie theater as well - a full theater I might add. He took the back of my head and lowered my mouth onto his thumb. I remember him feeling me up in the Metropolitan Museum of Art. We went to his place once and we played a little. He put nipple clamps on me for the first time, spanked me, etc. It was something I definitely enjoyed, although it might have been better with someone I had a connection with. He Dom-ed me over the phone a few times, and I remember being so turned on as I took my clothes off at home as his command and played with myself. He bought me a copy of The Story of O, which I still have.

I guess light bondage or spanking entered into many of my relationships, but not on the level I would have liked. I’d go through phases where I wasn’t as into kink, but I’d always come back to it inevitably. I think ultimately I’m more turned on by kinky sex than I am by vanilla sex, but I do enjoy vanilla sex. Finding a Dom has fulfilled a part of me that always yearned to be fulfilled. Eventually I hooked up with the couple I played with, and I would do bdsm play with them off and on for a few years. Details on that are for part two.

Nothing Thrilling

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on October 16, 2008
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I’ve had a quiet week for the most part. Davey is working late and I won’t see MasterDoc again until at least Monday. I got permission to masturbate on Tuesday night and made good use of the Wahl massager. I’m a little frustrated that holding off on orgasm can sometimes result in a diminished orgasm for me. I get to the peak, and hold back, and then the arousal ebbs a little then I try to get back up to the peak and let myself come but it’s not as high as the last time. *sigh* I will keep working on this.

Last night I was horny enough to ask for permission to masturbate again - but MasterDoc had left his phone at home and wasn’t going to have it until this morning. I hoped to see him online but he didn’t come online last night, so I was left without permission. I was a good girl and just made due without masturbation.

I have a few ideas for blog entries cooking, but not sure about one of them. I figured I’d do this little update for the meantime.

Review: The Archer Wand

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on September 22, 2008
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When I got home today, the first toy for me to review for Babeland was waiting by the door. I was all excited because until this past Saturday, I had never used a glass dildo before, so I had been looking forward to the arrival of the archer wand. Despite this not being my first time, I was excited to use a different, thicker glass dildo today. The archer wand is a curved glass dildo. It has balls at either end - nice, rounded balls - nothing to poke your tender g-spot.

I immediately went to the bedroom and took my pants and panties off. I had my nea handy because I had a feeling that a dildo wouldn’t get me off alone when I’m the one wielding it (someone else holding it, however, can definitely get me off). I took the time to use the Eros (aforementioned medical device), like MasterDoc wants me to, while having the archer wand inside of me. I played with the wand in between using the Eros (you take one minute breaks between each one minute clit suction session). The archer wand is nicely curved so that rocking the external end up and down nudges the internal side right against your g-spot. The smooth, hard glass feels nice and warms to your body temperature. The packaging says that you can even chill or warm the wand for a few minutes for a different sensation. (Not all glass dildoes can sustain a range of temperatures, check your packaging before putting it in a bowl of ice water or running it under the hot tap. Unless they’re made of pyrex, or a similar type of glass, some can crack at extreme temperatures.)

I find that I can’t get enough leverage with a dildo to thrust it hard enough to get myself off - it’s just the angle of my own arms versus what angle someone else could come at me. It felt good to jiggle the wand up and down and it nudged my g-spot nicely. The smoothness of the glass felt good inside, no friction. I ended up adding my vibrating nea on my clit to give me that extra push towards orgasm. I discovered that by clenching my thighs together, I could get the outer end of the wand between them and by undulating my hips it would press the wand against my g-spot. I moved my hips like this and used the vibe on my clit until I came oh so close to a terrific orgasm. Then I backed off with the vibe so I wouldn’t come just yet. I jiggled the wand with my hand a bit then went back to pressing it between my thighs. The combination of the wand inside me and the vibe on my clit led to a fantastic orgasm.

As it’s made of glass that can withstand temperature changes, you can boil the archer wand to disinfect it, put it in the dishwasher, or simply use soap and water like I did. Glass is non-porous and won’t, therefore, harbor bacteria. It makes for a very user-friendly toy indeed. Each archer wand is hand-blown and thus slight variations may occur from one to the next. The strong glass is supposed to withstand minor bumps and drops.

Eight Minutes

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on September 12, 2008
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I asked MasterDoc for permission to use my new toy again this week, and he laid out the guidelines - I could come as fast as I am able, as many times as I am able, but only within eight minutes. At the end of the eight minutes I had to stop. The time would start as soon as I touched myself, so I could look at porn and get myself worked up however long I wanted to before I started the eight minutes.

I was a little worried that I wouldn’t be able to come as fast as I used to be able to come. I could churn out orgasms in no time before, not so much these days. Of course, most of the time these days I have to hold back, so perhaps I would come more quickly than I think I could.

I put some porn on (the Sasha Grey film again) and I got myself worked up watching her struggle all tied up. At 2:50 on the dot I started touching myself with the vibrator, and by 2:51 I had managed to come. So much for worrying about that! Since I was allowed the full eight minutes I took the time to play with myself some more. I really do love my new nea by the way, I’ve decided it’s as good as my bullet vibe with the perk that it doesn’t have a cord. The second orgasm took a few minutes, you’d think when I’m worked up I’d come faster but somehow it didn’t work that way. I had another mind blowing orgasm as I watched Sasha Grey choke on Brandon Iron’s cock. I had a couple of minutes left, so I tried to go for another. At one minute to go my cell phone suddenly rings. Now who would have such perfect timing? Oh yes, it was MasterDoc. I let it go to voicemail as I wanted to get that last minute in. I finished off the minute but didn’t have another orgasm. Still, I was left feeling really good.

I called MasterDoc back and he laughed at the fact that he had caught me in the midst of the eight minutes. He jokingly gave me a hard time about not taking his call. I did debate whether I should pick up or not, but my horniness won out. I could totally go for another eight minutes right now, but I will have to be a good girl and find other things to occupy my time.

Quiet Week

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on September 4, 2008
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It’s been a relatively quiet week. I was lazy on Monday, the holiday. Otherwise I’ve been busy with work, which is terribly boring and not worth writing about (and I try to keep plausible deniability by not ever talking specifically about my workplace, as fun as nutty library patron stories are, they could easily be recognized by people I work with). Tuesday night I had a hard time falling asleep so I reached into the bedside table for my beloved bullet vibe. It was a pretty utilitarian masturbatory session. I teased myself a little, but really I just wanted to get off to relax and get to sleep. I came, it felt good, but it didn’t help me sleep. *sigh*

Last night I saw MasterDoc and we had a quiet, cuddlerific evening. I was a bit of a pain, asking a few times in different ways if I could get a ride on the sybian. (He had mentioned the idea of a ride earlier in the day.) At first he said no, but then he let me, however I was to run the controls myself so it would be a solo experience. And you know, it’s not quite as fun running the machine yourself. When someone else has control you don’t know if they’re going to turn it up or down, there’s the element of the unexpected, which is exciting.  In doing it myself, I tend to leave it on one level of vibration for a period of time, which is more likely to make me a bit numb. I also miss the physical contact which sometimes accompanies a ride - MasterDoc will often sit in front of me and hold me during. It’s not as fun without any audience. I managed to come, but it was always this low-level of arousal rather than an earth shattering orgasm. I had no trouble keeping fairly quiet. All in all, it wasn’t as fun as I had hoped it would be, nor as fun as the sybian usually is. Afterwards, MasterDoc asked me if knowing that I had pushed to get permission rather than him giving it freely affected how the ride was. I said that’s possibly part of the picture.

This week was evidence that despite being a sex blogger and living an exciting, kinky life, I do have mediocre orgasms and experiences sometimes. I’ve been thinking this week about how bloggers seem somehow other than human, or up on a pedestal. They’re like celebrities but on a small, small level. People feel that they know them from reading their thoughts and experiences on their blogs, but they don’t really know these bloggers. You hear about the kinky, adventurous things I do, but not about the boring day to day stuff - after all, me doing the laundry would make for less than thrilling reading. You know me as a bit of a sex kitten and horny slut, but not as a librarian, sister, daughter, girlfriend, nerdy girl. I don’t mention my anglophilia and penchant for Brit coms. I don’t talk about the books I read as I usually read at work during lunch and that could give away my identity. It can be difficult meeting people who are readers of your blog because they know so much about you, but you don’t know much about them, or at least they seem to know so much about you. I talk about some pretty personal and sometimes difficult things on this blog, but there’s plenty of difficult stuff I don’t tackle but keep private.

So yes, I’ve gotten philosophical about blogging this week. Anyway, I feel curious about YOU the reader. Who reads my ramblings about sex? I don’t have a huge readership but some people come back repeatedly - what makes you come back for more? I hope I come across as an ordinary woman who manages to get herself into outrageously fun situations. And I tell you, you could do this too if you wanted to. Really. I hope I don’t come across as self-absorbed as I probably do. I guess to be a blogger you have to have some level of self-absorbtion. I hope that people see me as human and flawed but like me despite these flaws.

Ok, enough philosophical rambling. There’s no HNT picture this week because I’m feeling lazy about digging one up.

Masturbation

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on August 3, 2008
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Last night I spent the evening alone, and I got really horny. I hadn’t yet used my one time a week permitted masturbation, and since it was Saturday I figured I had better get a move on! After rubbing myself through my pants for a while, I got out my bullet vibe, took the pants off and put a towel under my ass in case I squirted. I got myself all sorts of worked up, teasing and riding the edge. Then I started to fantasize.

I fantasized about calling up MasterDoc and telling him how horny I was. I loved thinking about telling him all about how I was a naughty girl, frantically playing with myself. (You may ask why I didn’t, and it’s because he was supposed to see his daughter last night and that would hardly be the time to call him with that.) It was so hot thinking about telling him all about what I’m doing to myself. The funny thing about this fantasy is that I suck at phone sex in reality. I clam up and have a hard time speaking (although not a hard time breathing heavy and moaning). But I loved thinking about his voice on the other end of the phone as I masturbated. When I came, I came really hard and for a while. I squirted a tiny bit as well. I find myself more and more thinking about MasterDoc as I masturbate. I moaned out loud as I came. I didn’t want to stop coming or touching myself, but of course all good things must end. I put my toy away and went back to watching the movie I was watching before my horniness took over.

Riding the Edge

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on May 15, 2008
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Taking wellbutrin has certainly helped my libido. Hooray! Last night Davey and I had sex. Today I used my one “at will” masturbation session when I got home from work. I went to pornhub and looked at some of the bondage-related videos (they’re all so short though! The regular porn has longer videos). I thought this one was hot. Again, it seems terribly uncomfortable but nonetheless it’s hot. (Except the part where he puts the butt plug in her mouth. Eww.) It’s interesting that he has to do the movement because in that position there’s no way she can move her head back and forth to take his cock in and out of her mouth. So he gets her in this helpless position and fucks her mouth.

I got wet watching videos and then took my bullet vibe to my clit. I left it on the low setting in an attempt to get myself to come with less stimulation. I usually use it on the high setting. I got myself worked up and to the point where I could come and I did my best to ride that point. I find it hard to do that without decreasing my point of arousal, but I’m working on that. When I wanted to come I whispered to myself, “Please Sir, may I come? Please Sir. Please Sir,” over and over again. (That’s pretty hot if I do say so myself.) I had a false start where I had decreased my arousal enough that I couldn’t instantly come when I gave myself permission to. The next time I came hard enough that I was writhing around on the sofa and my pussy flooded with wetness. I could have stopped there (and honestly, I don’t know if my permission covers just one orgasm or more than one during a single masturbatory session. I guess I’ll find out when MasterDoc reads this.) but I switched the vibe into high speed and got myself to the edge again. This time I really rode it for a while, again whispering to myself for permission to come. It felt amazing! I was so unbelievably wet. And finally, I let myself come again and I came really hard, moaning out loud.

I felt so relaxed and hungry that I skipped doing yoga and made myself a sandwich. (Yes, Sir I will exercise tomorrow. I’ve done it twice this week - working out or taking my bike out. I’d like to take my bike out again tomorrow but I don’t think the weather will cooperate. Time for some yoga then.) I’m a happy camper. And just think, I should get more sex tomorrow and Saturday. I’m horny enough that getting some won’t dampen my enthusiasm for getting more. In fact, it will probably make me want more and more. Just call me insatiable Nadia.

Bad Girl

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on April 20, 2008
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I’ve fallen a bit behind in my blogging this week. Earlier this week I was a bad girl. Davey’s working long hours this week and suddenly with the spring weather I’ve been hornier. So what are my options? Either I force a tired Davey into having sex with me, or I ask MasterDoc for permission to masturbate. I found myself lying in bed on Tuesday night, horny as hell, and not feeling like getting up to call MasterDoc for permission (nor did I feel like getting up to try to seduce Davey, who was still up). I was so horny though and I gave into my desires and masturbated. I knew even as I did it that I would tell MasterDoc about what I had done, I wouldn’t compound the illicit behavior with lying or keeping a secret. While I was doing it, I noticed that everything felt extra intense because I was doing something I wasn’t supposed to do. Because it was forbidden I was extra excited. I had an intense series of orgasms, one right after the other, and then fell asleep.

The next day, I kept thinking about what I had done and how I was going to tell MasterDoc. I didn’t immediately regret my bad behavior but when I talked to him that evening and told him what I had done, the disappointment in his voice made me feel horribly guilty. To top it off, I was still feeling really horny and I wanted to masturbate again. Oh dear. I sent a text message to MasterDoc saying, “Should I even ask if I can have permission to masturbate tonight? I’m very sorry I didn’t ask last night.” I was relieved when he replied along the lines of, “I love you even when you’re bad. Call me right before you want to masturbate.” This still didn’t guarantee permission, but at least he wasn’t mad at me. He was heading out to a swing club with S. that night and he texted again, “It would be really hot to get that call while I’m out at the club.” I made a mental note to hold off calling until he was likely to be at the club.

When I called later, he said, “What you want to masturbate again? After you already did that last night? Are you lying in bed right now?” I said that I wasn’t, but that if he gave me permission I would immediately run off and do it. And something wonderful happened, he gave me permission. And I think that ultimately this was the best reaction to my behavior - that being punitive would have just made me feel more rebellious. But knowing that he cares about me even when I’ve stepped out of line made me feel all the more crazy about him. He had asked me earlier if I was testing him, and I don’t think it was conscious but perhaps unconsciously I was testing limits and seeing how he’d react.

And so I went off, this time getting out my bullet vibe, and came hard again for the second night in a row. If the neighbors walked by our door around that time they’d have thought Davey and I were having sex from all the moaning I was doing. *grin* I really got into it. The weekend was promising to be interesting what with how horny I was feeling. MasterDoc and I had plans to go out on Friday, and Davey would be home and better rested on the weekend.